Sunday, October 1, 2017

Kol Nidre 5778: Be the Nechemta

A version of this sermon was delivered at Temple Emanu-El of East Meadow at Kol Nidre 5778.

Kol Nidre.  All our vows.  On Yom Kippur we spend much of our time looking backward.  Who were we in the last year?  What did we do in the last year that was worthy of praise?  Where did we err?  Where did we miss the mark?  Where were we kind?  Where did our baser instincts get the best of us?  All day, we look back; we repent for what we have done.  And yet, at the beginning of our fast, as we take the first step on this 25-hour journey of purification, supplication, and abstinence, we look ahead.  The abridged version of the Kol Nidre sounds like this, all the promises we make between tonight and next Yom Kippur, don’t really think of them as promises, because we know we won’t keep them.

We look forward, but not with hope.  Rather, as Catherine Madsen writes, “Kol Nidre is not an absolution, but a vote of no confidence.  It presupposes that we cannot be trusted: we make vows and fail to fulfill them.  We make the wrong vows, we are inconstant, faithless and hapless.”[1]  The Kol Nidre prayer, so beautifully and movingly sung by our Cantor and choir this evening, preemptively recognizes that we are not going to be as we want to be, hope to be, or wish to be.  Life is not going to be as we want it to be, hope it to be, or wish it to be.  No, in fact, life is often going to be hard.  No matter how hard we try to make it so, life will not live up to the expectations we set for ourselves during this Yom Kippur.

Man, but if this last year hasn’t proven the ancient Rabbi’s point!  5777 was a difficult year in a lot of ways, and it didn’t live up to many of our expectations.  There is much in the world that needs healing, and much difficulty has come to pass in the last year. 

Anti-Semitism has come roaring back.  We have seen this ancient hatred bolstered on the right by the Alt-right movement, white-supremacists under another name, dreaming of an ethnically cleansed America, emboldened by social media anonymity, Russian interference, and an administration that traffics in blatantly anti-Semitic imagery, messaging, and acquaintance, shouting "Blood and Soil" and "Jews will not replace us."  Horrifying images, and shocking in America in 2017.

We see it coming from the left, as well, in the anti-Zionist movement and the BDS supporters.  According to the most extreme on the left, Jews are the only group that doesn’t get the right to self-determination.  We are the only people who don’t deserve a homeland, anywhere.  According to these folks, prominent on college campuses and hiding behind innocuous names like Students for Justice in Palestine, and Jewish Voice for Peace, Jews are akin to Nazis, guilty of the worst crimes against humanity, and Israel ought to be a pariah state on its way to not existing.  Anti-Zionism is anti-Semitism because it singles out Jews as a group and rewrites the history of the modern Jewish State into a colonialist narrative that is historically inaccurate and intellectually dishonest. 

We Jews are caught betwixt and between.  But it’s not just on the news.  It’s in our high school, and middle school, affecting our families, and causing us to rethink how we train our kids for this new reality.

The climate is changing and seas are rising, making winds blow stronger, storms more powerful, and weather less predictable.  Those in authority react too late to the natural disasters and deny human involvement in the changes in our atmosphere, exacerbating the problems for the next generation.

Guns continue to ravage this nation.  Since the start of the year, there have been 333 mass shootings in this nation.  333.

Isis continues their fight in Iraq, and the bloody quagmire of the civil war in Syria rages on, bolstered by Russian weapons and a West unwilling to do more, because there is no good guy to get behind.  In Afghanistan the Taliban is resurgent.  There is ethnic cleansing in Myanmar.  North Korea has a nuclear weapon pointed at us and our allies, and a leader seemingly unafraid to use it.

In Israel, the government continues to restrict the rights of liberal Jews and cede authority over religion to the corrupt Rabbinical Authority, whose only interest is staying in power, not furthering the cause of Judaism for the many.  The government there turns a blind eye to the detrimental effects of settlement construction on the prospect for peace, and seems to have abandoned the two-state solution.

In our own nation, racial and societal tensions are seemingly at an all-time high.  Women’s agency over their own bodies and health choices are under attack.  The healthcare fight and tax code fight pit the few with power and money against the many without either.  Refugees fleeing deadly conflict with only the clothes on their back find this nation’s borders closed to them.  There is an opioid epidemic, coast to coast, taking lives, ruining families, and destroying communities.  Kids continue to go hungry, even though we have more than enough food.  States and even the federal government continue to discriminate against the LGBTQ community.

I could go on and on.  Each day of this last year seemed to bring new and difficult news.  Each time my phone buzzes with a NY Times alert, my heart beats a little faster, and I have to steel myself for whatever may be coming.  Even if there is good news, like a first World Series victory in 108 years, or the powerful images of neighbors helping each other after the storms, they are quickly overshadowed by the difficulties.

Each of these topics warrants a sermon of its own on a day like today.  Each warrants our attention.  Each deserves a platform.  And, truth be told, I started a lot of those sermons in preparation for tonight.  But each time I sat to write, the message eluded me.  Each topic seemed to be the right one for this auspicious evening, the evening when we recognize our mortality, and perch on the precipice of life and death.  And yet, no single topic fit just right.  The words did not come.  The spirit did not guide me.  The message did not form.

It is a tradition in Judaism that we not end on a negative note or idea.  Sometimes, in a Haftarah for example, an extra verse is added or repeated after the last verse, so that the portion ends on a positive note, word, or idea, rather than a negative one.  When we read from the Torah, we don’t end on a negative thought; we try to finish the Aliyah with a positive idea.  Likewise in preaching.  Sermons typically end with what’s called the nechemta, the moment of comfort for the congregation, to recognize that hope, which we Jews hold on to more dearly than anything except the Torah, is not lost.  Where is the nechemta this year?  Where is the hope?  Where is the comfort?  Where will it come from when the year ahead deals us its inevitable hardships?

I was looking in the wrong place.  I was looking outward for a message of hope and comfort, when all along, as this day reminds us to do over and over again, I was supposed to be looking inward.  I was searching for some external thing that would come and tell us all that things will be ok, and that we have reason to hope.  It was not to be found outside, but inside.

In the year ahead, it is up to each of us, and all of us, to work to be the nechemta, the comfort, the hope, when the promises we make, and the promises God makes, are not kept.  It is up to us to take that role and responsibility, and work to make the nechemta come to be, to bring the hope and the comfort this world sorely needs.  Let us vow this night, on the night when we recognize that the year ahead will be filled with difficulties, let us vow to be the nechemta!

How do we do it?  Well, first, let us recognize that we don’t have to solve all these problems.  That’s not the point.  We know we cannot do that.  But, just because we are not required to finish the task, doesn’t mean we are free to desist from it.

Tomorrow afternoon, we will read from chapter 19 of the book of Leviticus, known as the Holiness Code.  It is called this because it begins with a call from God: “And Adonai spoke to Moses, saying: ‘Speak to all the community of Israel, and say to them: You shall be holy, for I, Adonai your God, am holy.”[2]  We are supposed to be holy, to be like God.  What does that mean?  It means that we ought to channel our divinely inspired instincts and qualities: the qualities of compassion, generosity, and love. And, importantly for this day, the quality of forgiveness.  To bring comfort, we have to be willing to forgive those who have wronged us, and that includes forgiving ourselves.

God tells us what it means to be holy in this chapter.  Among the many commands: Honor your parents.  Keep Shabbat.  Do not steal.  Do not deceive. Do not exploit your neighbor.  Do not take advantage of those who are differently-abled.  Don’t bear a grudge.  And then, right in the middle of the reading, the greatest of the commandments: Love your neighbor as yourself. V’ahavta l’reacha kamocha. 

These commands, and the others I didn’t mention, teach us what it means to live a life of holiness, one that leads to being the nechemta.  If we look out for others as we look out for ourselves.  If we honor and respect our traditions.  If we listen to those with experience and work to put aside differences, and not carry a grudge, we can become the nechemta the world sorely needs.

But this chapter also has one more lesson to teach us.  Unlike the 10 Commandments which are in the singular in the Hebrew, most of these commandments of holiness are given in the plural.  Kedoshim Tihiyu, which I will roughly translate as: Be holy, y’all!  To be the nechemta requires recognizing that we cannot do it on our own.  It requires being a part of a community, agreeing on what is right and what is acceptable, and working together to bring about the comfort and the hope the world cries out for. 

Tomorrow morning, we will hear in the Haftarah the famous words of the prophet Isaiah.  “Is not this the fast I desire – to break the bonds of injustice and remove the heavy yoke; to let the oppressed go free and release all those enslaved?  Is it not to share your bread with the hungry, and to take the homeless poor into your home, and never to neglect your own flesh and blood?”[3]  It sounds like Isaiah would understand the world we live in today.  His time was filled with callousness and cruelty, a focus only on the powerful and wealthy, and not on the least fortunate, in direct opposition to the commands of the Torah.

To be the nechemta, we have to help those who are in need.  If we can become the hope or the comfort for even one person, we provide it for an entire world, for the Talmud teaches that the soul of one is as the soul of an entire world.  We are called to action by Isaiah, not prayer or fasting, but action.

And Isaiah recognizes the powerful effect of our actions and our desire and determination to become the nechemta.  “Then shall your light burst forth like the dawn, and your wounds shall quickly heal, your righteous one leading the way before you, the presence of Adonai guarding you form behind.”[4]  When we reach out to those in need, when we work to make the world better, we fill the world with God’s light and we become the nechemta the world needs, and bring comfort and hope to those who need it.

Tomorrow afternoon, a number of congregants will participate in a recitation of the Haftarah from the book of Jonah.  When Jonah arrives in Nineveh, the large city, which takes three days to walk across, he is set to deliver God’s message of doom to the city.  He makes it one day in and proclaims: “Forty days more, Nineveh no more!”[5]  Jonah expects that, like him, the people of Nineveh will not listen to God’s message.  He expects that, like him, they will try to flee from God and from their obligation.  But he is mistaken.  In the very next verse, before Jonah even says why God plans to destroy them, without even a moment in between for the people to think about it, we read: “The people of Nineveh believed God.”[6]

The people proclaim a fast, the king sits in sackcloth and ashes, and they are forgiven by God.  Jonah doesn’t love the outcome.  What he expected did not come to pass, and he feels he was sent on a fool’s errand.  But we learn from the people of Nineveh the power of listening, and the power of repentance, and atonement.  If we are to be the nechemta in the year ahead, we need to channel our inner Ninevite, we need to listen, and be open to hearing even those messages we don’t want to hear, and we need to be willing to change our ways when someone, or God, tells us we’ve erred or missed the mark.  We need to be willing to apologize and engage in the process of self-reflection, every day of the year, not just on the 10th of Tishre.  To be the nechemta, we need to be willing to be challenged to be better and do better.

Tomorrow morning, in the Torah, we will read from the book of Deuteronomy the portion known as Nitzavim.  It begins,
You stand this day, all of you, in the presence of Adonai your God, your tribal heads, elders, and officials, every man, woman, and child of Israel, and the stranger in the midst of your camp, the from one who cuts your wood to the one who draws your water, to enter into the covenant of Adonai your God, to establish you as God’s people and to be your God.[7]
These verses renew the covenant with between the people and God as they prepare to enter the Promised Land.
           
The list of who was standing there is important.  The Torah tells us that to be the nechemta we have to make room for everyone, from tribal head to water-drawer.  Everyone has a place and is it up to all of us to ensure that everyone has a place.  When we make space for others, and work to see in them the divine, the image of God implanted within, particularly when they are ostracized or marginalized, we become the nechemta this world needs.

In addition, we stand before God.  To be the nechemta sometimes requires taking a stand.  “The Talmud teaches, ‘If you see wrongdoing by a member of your household and you do not protest – you are held accountable.  And so it is in relation to the members of your city. And so
it is in relation to the world.’  As Jews we are held accountable in ever-widening circles of responsibility to rebuke transgressors within our homes, in our country, in our world.  One medieval commentator teaches we must voice hard truths even to those with great power, for ‘the whole people are punished for the sins of the king if they do not protest the king’s actions to him.’”[8]

The words I just shared are, in fact, words of protest.  They have been shared by hundreds of my Reform rabbinic colleagues across the nation in fulfillment of our sacred obligation over these High Holy Days.   Let us not be silent. Let us, without hesitation, decry moral abdication wherever we see it, and always take a stand so that we can be the nechemta the world needs.

The Kabbalists believe the world is in a shattered state, and it is up to us to pick up the shards and repair them, through the process of tikkun.  Every act of tikkun is an act of nechemta.  Every moment we spend working to fix what is wrong, is a moment we spread hope and comfort to a world sorely in need.

No one knows what this next year will bring.  We only know that what we expect will often not come to pass.  But we are not to be defeated by this knowledge.  No, we are to be emboldened to partner with God, to do the work of providing comfort and hope, to be the nechemta.

I close this evening with Julie Silver’s Prayer for Fasting:

Do not wish me an easy fast.
Let my fast be difficult

Let me remember the hungry people of the world who have no choice, no voice.

Let me understand that starvation and emptiness exist even when there is plenty of food on the table.

And if my fast causes me pain, let me sit with the pain.
If my head throbs, let me handle it.
If my stomach grumbles, let me welcome the sound as I welcome the shofar blast. 

Let my fast be the call.
Let my life on earth be the response.

Amen.

G’mar Chatimah Tovah.  

May we all be inscribed for life, blessing, comfort, and hope, in the New Year.




[1] Madsen, Catherine: “A Vote of No Confidence.” In, All These Vows: Kol Nidre, Lawrence Hoffman, ed. p.187
[2] Leviticus 19:1
[3] Isaiah 58: 6-7
[4] Ibid v. 8
[5] Jonah 3:4
[6] Ibid 3:5
[7] Deut 29:9-13
[8] From the One Voice Campaign

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